"We ought to give thanks for all fortune: if it is good, because it is good, if bad, because it works in us patience, humility, and the contempt of this world and the hope of our eternal country.” C.S. Lewis
Like locusts that eat golden years, termites chomp on wooden dreams. In times past I had a house. As great a house as it was, it was more a symbol of a dream. A dream of stability. A dream of connecting with neighbors and creating memories of my daughter growing up. Wife, daughter, dog, lawn, backyard, gas grill—the American dream. It took five years for it all to blow up. It was never about the house anyway. It was about belonging.
Since Hillary Tower was stolen away I’ve known it. She was an older woman—maybe twelve years old to my six. She lived in the house behind ours. I’d go there and play games, in the house and yard, Ring-Around-The-Rosie, Hide-and-Seek, Tag. I had a thing for Hillary. One day she disappeared. Like Puff the Dragon; gone. My parents mentioned her moving briefly, “Oh yeah, her parents had to move.” I thought as a grown up I could have stability. No more Hillary Tower episodes. It was about connecting.
I’ve moved ten times since Hillary. I’ve been fortunate as each move brought me into contact with rich, abiding friendships. At every structure I’ve lived in God has brought a friend into the picture. The friends remain. I keep moving.
I am partially known. Partially settled. Still searching.
This is the ever-present tension: to be fully known, fully accepted and home. The
angst is brought to light in the life of Abraham, “he lived as an alien in the
land of promise, in a foreign land, dwelling in tents, a stranger and exile on earth,
for it is clear he seeks a county of his own.”
I expect to move into a house, with my beloved and settle
in for the next little stretch of life. A little house, in a nice tract, with
ideal walkability, close to wilderness, near restaurants and night life. It’ll
be good but just good. I’ll never quite belong, never have the perfect
connections, never feel quite settled. I’m made for that eternal country where I
will be fully known, fully accepted. God will redeem the years the locust has
eaten.
