Cramped between faux leather cowboy with laptop;
Thursday, April 11, 2024
Stuck In E
Cramped between faux leather cowboy with laptop;
Thursday, March 28, 2024
Reluctant Spring
If cold glaciers formed here,
Slogging seething unsettled moil,
Saturday, March 23, 2024
Bruno
Blowing in like the Chinook he was named after; the first Samoyed found us before I’d entered kindergarten. We called him Sam. The second Samoyed, Bruno, magically appeared as a puppy when I was on the cusp of adulthood. Small, oh-so-soft rumbunctious ball of white fur. Fully grown Samoyeds are snow-white (appearing more yellow when actually in snow) sled-pulling dogs like a Husky. Atop that hard nose was soft, smooth cotton. Fur on the back white and wiry; I delighted in petting the soft fur on his head. In the dream it was that warm softness that permeated everything.
Before my first kiss Bruno and I had shared an edible dog
chew. One end in my teeth Bruno would grab the other. Like Jackie Paper and his
friend Puff, Bruno and I would set out for adventure in my metal Hornet. I was
beginning to realize I was wired for solo explorations down beach canyons and
through Hollywood hills. Not lacking for friends there remained a dire need for
connection with self and fun loving companion.
If you were once a teenage boy you ought understand. Angst
and emptiness warred in my not-quite grown-up soul. Grabbing my sleeping bag, I
let my mom know I was sleeping on the back porch alongside Bruno. Wondering now
if I needed connection with something or someone faithful. Trying to step
outside of the emotions inside. Like Odysseus and Argos there is a special
connection between man and dog.
In the dream Bruno was being hugged; full bear-hug. In real
life I carried a tranquilized Bruenster into the vets; limp body held tightly.
Photo by Barcs Tamás on Unsplash
Thursday, February 29, 2024
Adrenalized Days Need More Than Z’s.
Lord, my heart is not proud, nor are my eyes fixed on things beyond me, in the quiet, I have stilled my soul, like a child at rest on its mother’s knee, I have stilled my soul within me. - Come to the Quiet, John Michael Talbot
My wife awoke in a panic. Trembling. She had this question
on her mind, “What’s the name of the guy who starred in Spenser for Hire?” Our
nights currently are fraught with these terrors. Our sleep a strange dance;
part jitterbug, part swim. Throw in the snoring, his/her alarms plus the
occasional amber alert and it’s a wonder we don’t always face our days tired. Daily
life pours into our pursuit of sleep. Adrenalized days need more than z’s. There’s
a desperate need to find rest.
Like a seal basking in break of day sun, a friend rises
early to greet God. Rest of soul and receptivity to God seem to come easier to
them (I’m certain that’s not true). A cruciform life posture marks friend Kelly
who finds easy repose on the breast of the savior.
Possibly posture. Maybe ebb and flow. Can’t get there most
times. That child sitting on his mother’s knee squirms away. My coffee table
chair, my Papua New Guinea arabica, blue enamel mug, Michael W. Smith melody, a
glimpse, an open window to a place I’ve not arrived.
It’s as hard for me to know rest as it is for me to
describe rest. A warm San Fernando summer night Mike and I pulled beach chairs
onto his lawn after midnight. We sat feet from the sidewalk and dreamed dreams.
Laughing, laughing; so loud the neighbors came outside to tell us to be quiet. As
much a picture of rest to me as another summer day in the dry heat of Zion. Fremont
cottonwood pollen blowing down atop cold canyon river, orange Navajo sandstone cliffs
forcing me ever forward. Into the quiet.
That night with Mike, that day in the Narrows echo that
famous line, “God made me fast and when I run, I feel His pleasure.” Getting caught up and letting go; being safe
and carried away. Rest is Kellys’ cruciform posture, the sea lion on a stone, a
quiet canyon, a child on her mother’s knee.
Photo by Alex Azabache on Unsplash
Wednesday, January 31, 2024
Let Us Be Deliberate
Getting sliced open for spine surgery is much like Adams’ experience in Eden. You both are put to sleep not knowing what waits for you post-op. You both wake with less bone. Adam gets the perfectly paired partner and you got eight titanium screws. The big picture outcome for both operations is a flourishing life.
No nature or nurture debate for these two. The opportunity
for Adam and Eve was for exponential development. Basking in God and nature the
world was theirs. They could be their full selves. We on the other hand (thanks
in part to those two) struggle to integrate soul and spirit. Increasing in soul
formation and personal flourishing is always a battle.
“We plow the fields and scatter the good seed on the land,’
is a chorus from Godspell. The ground for growth is always available. The
internal decision to flourish or atrophy (life on cruise control is an
illusion) is one made minute by minute. I’m entering into a season of that
choice now. Some days I don’t work the croft and the crop suffers.
In the face of death let us be deliberate. The seasons come
with challenge; children, money, sickness, depression, celebrations, birthdays
and weddings. Flourishing means showing up for surgery. Searching for openings
and walking through them. Per Pressfield, “We have a job to do, a calling to enact, a
self to become.”
Photo by Wim van 't Einde on Unsplash
Saturday, January 27, 2024
No Running Around The Pool
No Running Around the Pool, a painting by my sister (denisebrookstudio.com), is ‘an homage to mom, who forever yelled those words at us while she sucked down vodkas and made us lunch.’ Such rife symbolism. The San Fernando valley is blazing hot in the summer. A swimming pool is a magical escape. Splashing and laughing with friends. Soaking in soothing, invigorating womb-temperature water. That forty-thousand gallons of clear liquid was space to go all out, stretch, scream, play. Then lemonade, sodas and melon under the shade of the patio overhang. The safest of places. And yet.
The pain is palpable in the room---twenty, thirty, forty
years later. Talk of patriarchs turns to tales of parents. Eight of us sharing
life over warm gooey chocolate chip cookies. Tales of father wounds rendered
physically by hand, emotionally by absence. Parent betrayals. “You have to make
space for forgiveness in your mind or it’ll eat you up.”
If my mom had a love language it was food. Watermelon
slices and snacks in abundance after swimming. Showering us with Michelin star
morsels from Sunset magazine recipes. So we had that. There was no hugging, no
personal contact and we never heard, “I love you.” Not even years after I’d
been softened enough to say it to her. As for the vodka drinking---that left other
marks; some visible in cigarette burns on the linoleum.
Growing up I wanted everything black and white. Easier to
hold to artificial absolutes in a childhood that didn’t have many. “The line
dividing good and evil cuts through the heart of every human being. And who is
willing to destroy a piece of his own heart?” says Solzhenitsyn. As I see more
gray in me, I realize this: the rule, no running around the pool, applies to
everybody. It’s easy to slip and cause harm. Forgiveness is similar. A rule to
heal us from harm against us. Freeing us to get back into the swim.
Sunday, December 31, 2023
Januarys' Promise
She emits five sighs that once were beeps. The Cuisinart brewer breathes out letting me know the coffee is ready. My wife on the other hand grabs the carafe before the beep. Forcing the cycle, trying to get that thirty-second jump on the day. I’ve never been a fan of mornings, preferring to unfold into the day slowly. Morning feels like the friend in Proverbs shouting, “Rise and shine!” It’s a curse not a blessing.
January feels like morning to me. A slow, cold start to the
rest of the year. I choose a favored coffee cup for the morning brew. We have
fifteen but I prefer about five. Generally journalling or reading a devotional and
a brief Bible passage. Too much lately I reach out for Instagram. Going to try
limit that this year. The cold provides an easier excuse for vacuity.
January is the jump-start for the year. The life calendar
eases up providing windows to look forward and back. Fortunate enough to be
able to envision hopeful dreams for the upcoming year. We’ve seen wrecks in the
rear-view but not as bad as some. Set some personal goals. Martin Luther King
weekend the wife and I escape town for marriage inventory. I have a list of
questions pulled from another author: If
the last year could be summed up in one word, what would it be? What new territory needs to be explored spiritually,
physically, emotionally? What are some things that MUST be done in order to
move my life forward? What could I do to make you feel more understood? It’s still early morning in January though; hard to know
what God will allow as the days warm up.
Going on five cups of Arabica
I still want to crawl back under the covers. Cold world, cold January, cold
morning. Goal setting is the little ember lighting my fire. The thing with feathers,
as Emily’s prone to say. Caffeine kicking in, undeterred by the draw of
the comforter, January holds promise.
Thursday, December 14, 2023
Comfort Earns Its Recompense
The fear for me,
Wednesday, November 29, 2023
The Knife and the Lilies
A minute from here there’s a place where tree leaves are fiery freesia; cement sidewalk a blaze of yellow, calling into a canyon of color. I made a mental note last year to capture it on camera this Fall as I’d missed the narrow window first time around. A simple supposition not quantified with a ‘Lord willing.’
It’s never good news when the neurologist calls you at home
after the MRI. The nerves from the spine impinged on their way down like good seed
falling among thorns. An urgent but planned surgery; not like a heart attack or
cancer.
The therapy for the back surgery has been to walk. A
blessing because it gets me out of the house and slows the spinning of my mind.
First of course there were the ‘what ifs?” Post surgery now I’m anxious about recovery
and return to normal life and work. Walking has been good. Glimpsing the last fall
colors, taking in the neighborhood, praying about the lilies.
“Consider the lilies,” Jesus said. That’s the struggle. ‘Incurvatus
en se,’ turned in on myself and minor concerns. Barely out from under the knife
I worry about new burdens. Those tree leaves will burn yellow again next year. Come
spring they will bud anew. Flowers will burst forth everywhere. Therefore do
not be anxious about tomorrow.
Monday, October 30, 2023
Heavens' Honing; Heroes and Outliers
All my heroes are outliers. The Cambridge definition of outlier
is “a person, thing, or fact that is very different from other people…” That
could mean a whole hell of a lot of things. To help clarify here’s a shallow
skim-of-a surface list of mine. They are: A poet to the Yukon, a photographer
of the Sierra, a martyred missionary to the Waorani, a writer of a nonfiction
narrative about the fields near Roanoke, and a Parkinsons afflicted writer
grappling the problem of pain. Prophets pointing us to a ‘better country,’ while
showing us present beauty. Writers whom, in the words of Annie Dillard, wrestle
with this question, “Why would an
omnipotent, omniscient and merciful God allow natural evil to happen?”
Perhaps I am mistaken in my choice of heroes. My failures
are not a result. Nor my triumphs. My decisions may have cost me what the
Jones’ have and I don’t. In a world of tangibles it’s hard to see the value of
intangibles. To quote Madeleine L’Engle, “What would have happened to Mary (and
all the rest of us) if she had said no to the angel?”
To anyone choosing a hero I would give this advice; wait.
Wait until you are in your forties or fifties so as not to choose the wrong
one. What if you were to choose as your hero one who enjoys freedom? Then one
day sitting at breakfast in Dallas with a specialized accountant for the rich,
and an executive for BHP among others you realize your choices, fate and living
quarters don’t compare well to others. Those insecurities rush in. Perhaps you
should have chosen that money-making, fitting-in archetype instead.
Having heroes is like the back surgery I just had done. The
world pushes hard against our spine. We are unaligned. Realignment is sometimes
as easy as a crack from a chiro. Picking up an essay from a role-model keeps us
on track. Other times gotta hideaway with that Spofity playlist, some journals
and tattered tomes.
Choosing a hero is easier than becoming one. Maybe we
choose them according to our souls wiring. Do the chords resonate because you’re
attuned to them? It’s not always comfortable being an outlier. If that’s who I am
then that’s who I should be shaped to be. Heaven and heroes honing me to be my
best.